The Breath of Contraction: Where the soul learns how to stay
- Sandra O Ortiz V
- 2 days ago
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In those times
there are no names to call it,
no inspiration,
no certainty.
Only breath.
Breathe,
and let the Beloved stay with you
in the place where staying is hard.
Let the Beloved whisper to you, very softly:
This, too, belongs.
Longing has been felt in the heart, and inner listening has begun to guide it toward change, even before the heart fully recognises what it needs.
When longing is ignored, the heart often experiences increasing emptiness or discomfort. When it is listened to, a journey begins: a descent into deeper layers of the heart that awaken both pain and potential.
As this descent unfolds, something tightens.
We begin to recognise truths about the Self that differ from the fantasies we may have carried for years. What once sustained us no longer does. What once comforted us no longer fits. We may not like the shape our life has taken. We may feel a void in the chest. This recognition can also feel like a constriction of the heart.
Then the descent seems to stall, as if held in one place.
The heart contracts.
Life appears to pause, waiting.
This is the Breath of Contraction.
It is the moment when the night thickens and everything may feel stuck, unmoving, or suspended. Not because something has gone wrong, but because the soul has reached a threshold.
This breath arrives when the descent has completed its work, but relief has not yet begun. It is the space in between, where nothing resolves, nothing opens, and yet something essential is happening beneath the surface.
Many of us recognise this breath in life:
when emotions intensify but do not release,
when grief gathers without tears,
when anxiety tightens the chest,
when the body feels braced, waiting,
when we sense change coming but cannot yet move toward it.
This is a threshold where the soul is invited to learn how to stay present inside what feels difficult, intense, or unfamiliar.
The ease does not arrive instead of the contraction. It arrives through it.
“Indeed, with hardship comes ease.”(Qur’an 94:6)
This breath invites us to remain still, not to rush forward, not to distract ourselves from discomfort, not to analyse the pain away, but to stay with what is tightening and listen for the intelligence it carries.
When the Breath Tightens
When the soul begins to invite us inward, toward a journey that may reveal the truth of who we are the heart feels a pull toward change.
Something begins to move.
But when the Breath of Contraction arrives, the body tightens.
The chest feels pressed.
Emotion gathers without release.
Old sensations return.
Fear, grief, resistance, longing, all alive at once.
It can feel like regression.
Like failure.
Like something has gone wrong.
This is contraction.
Yet nature, in her rhythms, teaches us otherwise.
In birth, the body already knows this truth:
Contractions are not against life.
They are in service of life.
Pain here is not punishment.
It is preparation.
It is activation.
When the body surrenders to the rhythm of contraction, it releases its own medicine.
So it is with the soul.
Soul-contraction invites us to stop fighting the tightening, to stop asking it to go away, and instead to stay.
To stay with breath. To stay with presence. To stay with trust in the movement itself.
And when we do, something ancient begins to awaken quietly within.
The Dark Night of the Soul
Rūmī speaks to this place without softening it:
“This moment is a furnace door. Your whole life a melting in its heat. Be patient, endure the burning. For out of the fire, gold is born.”
Even when the heart feels lost, it is still being held inside a greater rhythm.
St. John of the Cross called this passage the Dark Night of the Soul, a stripping away of familiar securities so the soul may learn to trust what cannot yet be seen.
Contraction teaches us that suffering is not a sign that something has gone wrong. It is often a sign that something very deep is rearranging itself.
In Sufi understanding, moments of contraction invite the heart into al-Jihād al-Akbar, the greater struggle, not a battle against life, but the courage to remain present with what is difficult without hardening, collapsing, or fleeing.
Psychologically, old wounds may surface.
Forgotten griefs rise.
The nervous system tightens as the psyche resists what feels overwhelming.
This can feel like failure, like regression, like losing ground.
Yet this is not collapse.
It is sacred contraction, the necessary gathering before a new organisation of the self can emerge.
Do not fear this breath.
Do not rush the night.
Do not force the opening.
Do not abandon yourself here.
Within the pressure, within the tightening, within the heat, the Beloved is at work, quietly preparing the ground for a new movement of life.
Stay.
Breathe.
Let the contraction do what it knows how to do.
Ya Qābiḍ,
hold us in Your wisdom.
Ya Bāsiṭ,
prepare us gently for the opening that will come.
A Gentle Practice
The Breath of Contraction
For moments when life feels tight, paused, or unresolved
Find a quiet place where you can sit or lie down in a way that feels supported. Let your body choose its position. There is no correct posture for staying.
Before you begin, remember this: Contraction is not something to overcome. It is something to be accompanied.
1. Arriving in the Body
Place one hand on the chest. Place the other on the belly or lower ribs.
Notice the contact of your body with what is holding you, the floor, the chair, the bed, the earth beneath.
Say inwardly: “I am here.”
2. Breathing Inside the Tightness
Inhale gently through the nose for a count of 4.
Do not try to deepen the breath. Let it be as it is.
Pause softly for a count of 2, not to hold, but to notice.
Exhale slowly through the mouth for a count of 6.
Allow the exhale to lengthen without force.
As you breathe out, whisper inwardly: “I stay.”
Repeat this breath 5 times.
If the chest feels tight, breathe around the tightness, not into it. If the belly resists, let the resistance be included.
Nothing needs to change.
3. Staying Without Solving
As sensations, emotions, or thoughts arise, do not follow them. Do not push them away.
Simply notice: “Something in me is contracting.”
Let your hands remain where they are. Let your breath remain slow.
Say inwardly: “I do not have to understand this now.” “I do not have to fix this.”
Stay for a few breaths.
4. Trusting the Intelligence of Contraction
Bring gentle attention to the place that feels most tight. Not to open it, just to acknowledge it.
Imagine that this place is doing important work on your behalf.
Say inwardly: “You may take the time you need.”
Let the breath continue quietly.
5. Closing the Practice
When it feels right, place both hands over the heart.
Say inwardly: “Even here, I am held.” “Even now, something is unfolding.”
Remain still for a few moments.
This is the Breath of Contraction, where staying becomes strength, where patience becomes wisdom, and where the soul prepares, quietly, for the opening that will come in its own time.
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